Emotional Support

Emotions & Self-Care

Seeking Support

  • Counselor / Therapist / Psychologist: It's okay to seek outside support, and you can talk to a professional therapist, counselor, or psychologist through Central College or the local community. As a student, you receive free use of the counseling center. There is no limit to the number of visit you receive for free. If you and the counselor agree it is in your best interest to be seen by a community counseling center, they can refer you Learn more about Support from Central.
  • Crisis Centers: Crisis centers are places dedicated to supporting survivors of sexual assault or abuse and often provide counseling, support programs, legal referrals, and access to advocates (also called Rape Crisis Centers). Find a center near you:  Support In the Area.
  • Advocates: Sometimes called survivor advocates or victim advocates, these are compassionate allies who can support you by accompanying you to a medical or forensic exam, explaining your reporting options, helping you find psychological/emotional support and referring you to legal resources. Connect with the local crisis center in your area to talk to an advocate.

Common Emotional Responses

There is no right or wrong emotional response to an experience of unwanted sexual contact; each person will have their own reaction. It’s common to experience a mix of emotions and feelings, like sadness, anger, confusion, shame, or uncertainty of what to do next. It can be useful to seek support and practice active self-care to aid the healing process.  Below are some tips and reminders for taking care of yourself throughout your process.

Self-care

Self-care is an important part of healing. While you may feel pressure from others to respond in a certain way, your only obligation is to your own healing.  You are in the best position to know what you need.

  • Check in with yourself about your sleeping, eating, exercise, and substance use patterns. Your physical health is directly connected to your emotional well-being. If you feel tired or emotionally drained, consider incorporating meditation or other relaxation practices into your daily routine.
  • Processing what happened in a safe environment is important; if you do not feel safe in your school environment due to ongoing contact with the perpetrator, you have the right to change your housing accommodations or class schedule. Read more about Central Policies and Your Title IX Rights.
  • Remember that you are not alone, and it's okay to seek out support, whether through friends, an advocate, a crisis center, online communities, or a counselor or therapist.
  • Practice grounding exercises, such as;
    • Place one hand on your abdomen and one over your heart. Gently apply pressure or hum. Focus on the feeling of your body under your hands.
    • Tap parts of your body and focus on the sensation this creates.
    • Allow water or air to run over your arms, legs, and/or face.
    • Feel your feet on the ground, your body against a chair, or your hand against a wall or floor.  It may also help to stomp your feet, shift your weight from one leg to another, and/or massage your legs.
    • If you're physically able to do so, stand up, walk, stretch, or raise your arms.
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Support from Central

Counseling Services
Maytag Student Center, 231
641-628-5656
Monday-Friday, 8am-5pm

As a student, you receive free use of the counseling center. There is no limit to the number of visit you receive for free. If you and the counselor agree it is in your best interest to be seen by a community counseling center, they can refer you.

You can also receive on-campus support from the following groups.

Campus and Community Resources:

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In the Area

Pine Rest Christian Mental Health Services
https://www.pinerest.org/locations/iowa/pella-clinic/
641-628-9599
2611 Washington St
Pella, Iowa 50219

Crisis Intervention Services
http://www.stopdvsa.org
641-673-0336 (You can also call their 24hr crisis line after hours at 1-800-270-1620 or 641-673-5499)
500 High Ave. W
Oskaloosa, Iowa 52577

Crisis Center & Women’s Shelter
https://www.domesticshelters.org
1-800-464-8340, 24 hours, 7 days/week

You can also call any of the below resources to speak with someone anonymously.

  • Iowa Sexual Abuse Hotline, 1-800-284-7821
  • Iowa Crime Victim Assistance Division, 1-800-373-5044
  • Iowa Coalition Against Sexual Assault, 515-244-7424
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Nationally & Globally

Nonconsensual or unwanted sexual contact is never okay, regardless of the state or country in which it occurs. Below are resources to find information and support nationally and internationally.

RAINN (Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network

RAINN is the largest US network supporting survivors of sexual assault and abuse, and offers a free, completely anonymous and confidential 24/7 online chat service that you can access from anywhere around the globe. Chat with a trained RAINN support specialist anytime at online.rainn.org.

Learn more at the RAINN resources website.   

U.S. Department of State -  Office of Overseas Citizens Services

The State Department can help you contact family or friends, obtain medical care, address emergency needs, understand the local criminal justice process and connect with local and/or US-based resources for victims of crime, including local legal representation. The first step is often connecting with the local US consulate or embassy.

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